Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Working mom or SAHM?

I'm going through the internal debate that many moms go through. To work or stay at home? I have chosen to stay at home. Not for one second does this feel wrong to me. I am fulfilled with my girls. I feel sad when I am not with them. My career choice is in early childhood development, so being home with them is exactly what I want from my life. But. I have been working part time at a shoe store the past few months. My last day will be in a few days. It has been killing me every day and weekend having to leave my girls and husband. I need to be home with them. That is where I belong. But I have loved getting dressed up for work....it was in retail where my husband and I first met. I like looking good for him, even 2 kids later. I am good at my job, even if it is "just retail". I enjoy talking with other adults. I enjoy looking at shoes!! It's not a hard choice for me, but I still feel the slight guilt of not working. Of giving up that time that is for me.....there is the saying that says you need time for you...I can't remember exactly how it goes. I feel the need to be with my family. They are what give me strength and happiness. Not the tiny bit of money I earn selling shoes. I do not judge others for working, my sister does and so did my mother in law. They are both two of the most amazing women I know! But I do know that it is not for me. When the girls and future kids are older and all in school, I will work. I will work a normal job during the day, that I enjoy. And I will be able to be home with my kids by dinner time. And enjoy our weekends and evenings together as a family. That's been the hard part for me, that with this part time retail job, I lose all family time. My husband gets home from work and I leave an hour later for work. He puts the girls to bed and he and I have about an hour together when I get home. I work all weekend every weekend. It's just too hard. I admire you moms that do that! It takes such strength and sacrifice. Well....only a few days left for me and I could NOT be happier!!

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